Top 10 Things You Should NOT Bring to a First Date

27 Feb

You're selling yourself, not a car.

Having covered what to bring to a first date in a previous post, it’s time we turn to the things you should leave at home. Do NOT bring:

  1. Your best friend(s). Seriously, unless this was discussed beforehand and both parties co-signed the master agreement to bring people from their life to a romantic screening, do abstain from this terribly ill-advised idea. This goes without saying for most people, but you’d be surprised. Any good reason to bring a friend on a first date (the guy looks might be the Lopper, has a strange lisp/hunch/googly eyes suggesting a troll) questions why you’d want to be on that date in the first place. Any bad reason (vetting, insecurity, social experiment/”punking”) is just rude. Leave ‘em at home.
  2.  A hangover/alcohol poisoning. Yes, just because you foolishly scheduled a Sunday morning date after a Saturday-night bender doesn’t mean you should teetotal your way through a night out with friends. But if you care at all about the person you’re meeting the following day, you might want to eschew the riskier side of your raging behavior: funnels, keg stands, beer before liquor, hard drugs, questionable drunk food, etc. It might make for a good blog post later, but it won’t impress your date when you’re regurgitating last night’s dinner on his brand new loafers.
  3. A stick up your ass. You’ve already checked the mirror twice. Your hair and makeup look great. If you’re a guy, your eyebrows are in arch-ready mode. You smell good and your breath is impeccable. Now put you hands behind you and run them down your spine to your butt, verifying that there’s not any discernible objects sticking out of it. If there is, pull it out and discard it or, if you’re really attached, wrap it, wash it, and save it for non-date night.
  4. The keys to your “Beamer.” You might be driving to your date, in which case it’s perfectly legitimate to have your car keys with you. But whatever you do, do NOT casually play with them or drop them on the bar/table in front of your date. You might be the type of guy who likes to dangle his keys out of sheer habit, but the girl next to you will very likely assume that you’re douching off. Play it safe.
  5. An extremely elaborate, 2-hour story. Everyone loves a good story, and there’s no better way to kick off a real conversation between two people than exchanging some personal experiences. But no matter how awesome that time you got lost in the woods for a week was, or the full transcript of the lecture on macrobiotic nutrition you just attended, keep in mind that your date may have something interesting to say as well. Do not monopolize the conversation. If you need an audience for your monologues, write a one-man show or troll some online forums.
  6. Your racial fetish. Maybe you’ve got yellow/jungle/vanilla (?) fever. Alright, it’s not the worst affliction; in fact, it might be really fun. But the girl/guy you’re going out with likely doesn’t want to be thought of as a fetish (unless, of course, both parties are on the same page from the start). They probably want to be appreciated for their brilliance, wit, charm, and passions and not the color of their skin or the curvature of their nose. Save it for the 36th date.
  7. Heels. Why, girls. …Why?
  8. Dishonest profiles/photos. One of the most common complaints you’ll hear from women is that guys lie about their height. It is understandable that when it comes to a measurable asset that can immediately disqualify a guy from consideration, he might be tempted to “pad his resume” an inch or two. Personally, I find this pretty tacky, but if a one-inch lie can produce an amazing connection, who’s to judge. One of the most common complaints you’ll hear from both genders is that people post deceptive photos. Not much you can do here. You can put your best face on, but there is no sense at using crazy angles, concealing missing limbs, etc. If you want your partner to be comfortable with who you are you have to show that you’re comfortable with it first and foremost
  9.  “Mickeys.” Guys, no. If you’re going to Roofie someone, Roofie yourself. Your date may need a little “inspiration” to get more affectionate, and a nice bottle of wine along with some impressively obscure verse does just fine, but she’s not looking for “aggressive seduction.”
  10. A wedding ring. Whatever your reasons (you’re already in love and bent on proposing/you forgot to take off your wedding ring before going on a pre-affair screening date), you should probably polish that ring and leave it at home. Girls might want to see it at some point, but a cocktail and some trail mix will do for now.

6 Responses to “Top 10 Things You Should NOT Bring to a First Date”

  1. K February 28, 2012 at 12:24 pm #

    Stuff a guy shouldn’t bring on any date past the first one: quite possibly the lamest excuse ever of why he slept with you but doesn’t want anything more: “You know, I’m a guy. And you’re pretty.” Are you for serious???

    • K February 28, 2012 at 12:25 pm #

      Should also be noted that we have known each other for a long time and are “friends.” Puh-lease.

  2. Datestable February 28, 2012 at 3:30 pm #

    That’s a TERRIBLE thing to bring to any date. But at least he threw in a compliment!

  3. mplsadventures February 29, 2012 at 1:13 am #

    I think you forgot number 11: a buzz. The last OkCupid date I went on, the guy told me he had “pre-gamed” our date because girls make him nervous.

    • Datestable February 29, 2012 at 10:08 am #

      His mistake was not particularizing this weird bro-pas to you: “I pre-gamed with Jaeger Bombs because I was so intimidated by your awesomeness.”

      • mplsadventures February 29, 2012 at 3:00 pm #

        Haha, yeah, that would have been acceptable, but that was not he way he put it.

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